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We were back home by 330am, even after an extended dr appt, and a short stop at an inlaws on the way..... We make these trips each month>> it is a part of our way of life because we live in such a rural area of the US; it is considered an american 3rd world since there is so much poverty out here. only about 30% of people have electric or running water or indoor bathrooms.. Many still have dirt floors, use fire wood to cook on and heat their homes in the winter, heard sheep, sheer them , spin the wool into yarn and make some awsomly beautiful rugs for a meager price compared to the thousands the traders sell them for ...

 The nice part is no sirens day and night, no drive by shootings, gang activity is very limited, and the kids are not all bad, many want to goto collage rather than sit on the street corner smoking dope... Our live stock roam free. It is not uncommon to see cows and or horses crossing the road in front of your vehicle day or night at the grocery store etc...

YES we are rural and on a "Indian Reservation".. Have a great day.

GOOD LUCK

Thanks for the Invite, and Have a great day!!! We are off to town 250 miles away, will be back tonight to read , read, and read!!! Have a good one!!!

First of all, there is no way you could have prevented your daughter's illness. Stress or not - these things happen - as horrible as they are to deal with, the fact of the matter is, you could not have known and if you did, would you change anything?  

as far as your fiance - what about pharmaceutical jobs? Working for the drug companies? I know its different from what he's used to, but they do pay very well and the benefits are phenomenal...

try NACA - they may be able to help you with your home situation.. 

Kids are resilient... they do bounce back.. however your 13y/o is at that stage in life when she probably hates you one minute and loves you the next... typical teenager - whoever said the 2's were terrible, never met a teen!  Be patient with her and yourself. All of you have a LOT going on, this is the time in your life when you need EACH OTHER the most. Talk to her, do not shut her out. You may think she is a child, but I can almost bet she is pretty aware of what is going on and resents being left in the dark - if that is the case. She may feel powerless and alone -include her in as much as you feel she is capable of handling - you know your daughter best.

Too many parents try to shield their kids from the big, bad world. If they do not learn about this stuff from their parents, where will they learn it from? If they see their parents as human, with feelings, (tears and all) then they just might react differently. They need to realize that parents have problems and they being an adult is not all its cracked up to be. Its hard and it really sucks sometimes. But if everyone works together and shares the load - whatever they are capable of doing - then the burden becomes that much lighter for everyone. 

Try to stay positive when people think positivly things positive will happen. I understand how hard it is to do so as I have my own problems but just remember don't stress things that you can not change and deal with the things that you can. I wish you the best of luck and if I hear of anything in your area that can help I will try my best to let you know.

God Bless You

I read your sad story and had some ideas:

The memories your family has of Josie and of your oldest's father can never be taken away.  If you do lose the house maybe you can take a small part of it, like a brick,screw or nail or a stone from the yard.  As for Josie, maybe a small charm that reminds you of her or a small rock from near where she is buried will help you all still feel connected to her if you do have to leave.

Please read my page on foreclosure - maybe that will help you save your house.  If you do have to leave, please try to find a way toremember that the house is only a structure.  Maybe make a photo collage or scrapbook to help you keep your memories of your time living there, and then move on.  We all seem to reisst change, but sometimes change is a good thing and opens us up to bigger and better things.

Do you get any assistance for yoru child's medical issues?  Do you get food stamps?  Have you applied for TANF?

Best wishes, Rosie

I just wanted to send out some words of encouragement. I know you are going through alot right now and it's very overwhelming but it will not rain forevever. I am sending out prayers for you and your family.